Let us look at a discussion about confidence. A – How do we gain confidence? Any clues? B- Good question because I also need confidence. In my opinion, we gain confidence by taking the chance and by surviving the outcome irrespective of the results. But that could work either way.
C interrupts B and says- I think you are right, B that some of our confidence comes from accomplishing things and recognizing that accomplishment for ourselves. Those who don’t try, and who only want things done for them because they “can’t,” don’t gain this kind of confidence.
I wonder… you say sometimes it has worked for you and sometimes it hasn’t… could the difference be in how well you recognize what you have accomplished? Take for instance, trying to quit smoking… do you see how much you have accomplished, or only see how you feel you’ve fallen short? Because i see the progress you have made… even if you are smoking as much… because you tried. And that shows you are orienting your mind and your lifestyle to become a non-smoker.
You have reminded me that I need to work on recognizing my accomplishments, too. In this area, I more often see the glass as half empty instead of half full! That is how C looked at the question of confidence. Let us see how the dialogue develops. Now it is the turn of B. As far as smoking is concerned, I’ve failed to achieve what I set out to do. So I feel that i am a failure. Why my weak side takes control over me, rather than my determination? What is the way to fight weakness? If I conquer that I will gain confidence that I can take control. Right now I am not sure. Does anyone have an insight?
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Posted: September 25th, 2009 under Articles.