When we point the blame or make negative comments towards others, it has always been to my understanding that those statements say a lot about ourselves. Remember the saying “point the finger at someone and you’ll have three more pointing back at you”? This is really very true. It seems that when a person blames another for their shortcomings, they are really just pointing out those shortcomings that they can really relate to. Now, of course, this does not always apply. But, if a person is just saying something to bring the other person down, then the chances are pretty hefty that the one pointing the finger is pretty low on the self-esteem totem pole. Why would they even bother to point it out? To make themselves feel better? Does this really make a person with an inferiority complex feel more confident?

Confidence is obviously a tough thing to keep up in today’s world, it seems, with TV and all the media influence that has become a part of our daily existence. In many ways it is indeed causing many of us to feel more insecure about ourselves and accepting of others’ opinions of ourselves. Even if we LIKE that ‘socially undesired’ characteristic about ourselves, many will change just to appease and/or fit in with the crowd that is deemed by the society and culture we are surrounded by. This seems to me to be more of a survival instinct that we were born with early on in our human existence. And when something like that has lasted for this long, it obviously must take quite a while a tweak a bit. So, if we get one thing out of this article it would be this: remember that when you are publicly displaying any sort of remark, positive or negative, about another person; you are actually publicly making a bold statement about yourself. So, keep it positive, or at least proactive if you can. If you see a negative quality in a person, why not just try to be the constructive one who points out that positive thing about that person. The rewards are endless as we are always planting seeds with one another daily.