Step One.    Start a journal that contains three sections; Journaling, Success and Having Gratitude.   

It may seem very simple and perhaps even to some a little woo woo, however it has been well researched and proven that writing things down helps to achieve what you want in life.  “When you see it and believe it your can create it.”

a.  Daily happenings. Writing is a fantastic way to get rid of feelings and thoughts that don’t serve you well.   You can write a few lines or a few pages depending on what you choose to do and what each day brings.

b. Your Daily Successes.  Most people don’t even realize that they have many successes during a day.  A success is anything, whether big or small that is an action.  For example:  If my blog is ready on time that’s a success. If I don’t wait until the last minute to get things to my assistant that’s a success!  If I empty my dishwasher instead of leaving it for the next day that’s a success.   It can be personal or professional.     By putting your daily success actions into a journal over time it allows you to see what you really do achieve each day.  It could be two to three actions you took that day to take you nearer to your goals.    

I like to take a look at the end of each week to see how much I actually did achieve in a week. As you look back on your entries of positive accomplishments, it will give you motivation to achieve even more.  It also helps me to see where I’m just making busy work or when I’m being really productive.

c.  Having gratitude for what you have, not for what you don’t have.  Write 3-5 things each day that you are really grateful for in life.  You will be amazed at what happens when you continue to do this and how much it changes your thinking to be really positive.

Step Two:  Setting Your Goals.  I always encourage clients to set short and long term goals then put them aside and come back to creating the action to achieve them. Instead of attempting to achieve everything at once break the actions into smaller steps that you want to meet each day.    Each time you cross off the small steps, you gain more confidence in yourself and you’ll empower yourself to reach the next step until you’ve achieved the primary goal.

If your goal is to save money for a vacation, you can plan small steps like placing $5 in a savings jar each day. You’ll feel good knowing you’ve done seven things for yourself one week rather than waiting until you suddenly need $1,000 to fall into your lap for your upcoming holiday.

If you don’t finish a step, I encourage you not to beat yourself up.  Lots of people are very good at that because they think they failed.   In my book, there is no such thing as failure.  Everything in life is a learning experience and the small steps help you to gain the confidence and self esteems you want to build.

Step Three.   Read inspirational quotes.  Search the Internet or purchase a book with lots of inspirational quotes on confidence or self-esteem.  I have an International Monday Motivator quote that goes out each week which is both written and recorded.  If you are interested in this, you can find all the information together with my free 6 lesson E.course at www.sayyestoyoucoaching.com.    Use weekly quotes to jumpstart your week or a daily quote to jumpstart your day.  Apply it to your life throughout each day.  This will give you another success to add to your daily journaling.   Always set an intention at the beginning of each day about how you choose to feel that day and then follow through on that intention.

And, always remember to take a little time to yourself each day because you deserve it.

After about a month I think you will be amazed at how much more confidence you have in your own ability and how much using these 3 simple steps are changing the way you think and your ability to achieve your goals.

You capture those confident feelings when you have a small or short-term success. This success may be as big or as small as you want it to be.

There is no known rule that says for anything to be a success it has to be something huge, titanic or long-term.

Success is success! And that is how your mind will see it.

Make it your role to daily feed success after success to your sponge of a mind. And as surely as a seed grows into a plant, you will grow more confident after each seed that you plant, and that confidence will grow even more and gain momentum as the plant gets bigger and stronger, fertilised by each and every success that you achieve.

Take advantage of all your small or short-term victories. Make the most of all your short-term successes; particularly when you are feeling pessimistic, feeling low or insecure about your future.

Remind yourself and profit from your past successes to lift you and help you regain and secure that confident feeling again from deep within.

I am pretty sure you have daily short-term successes that you can be proud of. For example, you had a project to complete and were given a tight deadline. You managed your time effectively and you confidently worked through it until completion.

Or perhaps you had to make a presentation and were given short notice. You had to gather all the relevant information and facts and relay them in a confident and assured manner.

These were two examples of success, where you had that confident feeling. . I am sure when you sit back and go through the past few days or weeks you will remember many more successes.

And when you do, relax and think about them. Recreate and stimulate the confident winning feelings again. Relive the moment of every success and accomplishment.

Use that surge of confident feeling to fuel you to your next success; to the one after that, and to the one after that. Gradually building a portfolio of successes.

Perhaps you could set aside an hour for the next few days to write down as many successes as you can. And next to each one, describe in detail how you felt; how much of a winner you were.

Focus on how you believed you were confident, and how you communicated with supreme confidence. Remember how you psyched yourself up to increase your confidence prior to, during and after the event.

Write as much as you can on how fantastic and strong and confident you felt. As you write, recapture the winning feelings, the pride, the confidence and the satisfaction.

By being a successful, confident winner once, you can be a winner again and again; as many times as you like throughout your life.

Anytime you feel unconfident or nervous, apprehensive or anxious, regain that confident winning feeling by emotionally remembering your past successes.

A winning feeling is a confident feeling, one that reinforces success time after time.